Male and female sexual pleasure

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Experiencing prostate pleasure changes the way you think about male sexuality. One of the things it made me realize is that male sexuality is actually amazingly similar to female sexuality. We think of them as being totally different – almost like opposites – because we are conditioned to think of penetration of a woman by a man as the norm. But when you discover prostate pleasure, you realize that a man can be penetrated too (male-receptive anal penetration), and therefore that men can experience sexual pleasure that is a lot like what women experience.

As The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure explains, the P-spot is a lot like a woman’s G-spot. Both are located a few inches inside the body, you stimulate them in a similar way (they both respond to the same kinds of strokes – “deep pressure, not light caresses”) and both fill with fluid when they are stimulated. But most importantly of all, prostate orgasms are a lot like the internal orgasms women get from G-spot stimulation. The way men describe how a prostate orgasm feels is often very similar to how women describe a G-spot orgasm.

I remember that when I had my first prostate orgasm, I immediately thought: Wow, this must be something like what a woman feels during sex! It was the first time I had experienced that feeling of sexual pleasure inside me – as opposed to just in my dick. As well as that totally new kind of physical pleasure, there is also a vulnerability that comes with it. As a straight man, I had not really associated vulnerability with sexual pleasure. But when I embraced it, it was exhilarating and liberating.

All this means that, as sex educator Daniel Saynt says in an article for Men’s Health, experiencing prostate orgasms can “help you understand female pleasure far more deeply.” You can empathise with female pleasure much more when you have actually experienced what internal prostate stimulation feels like – that is, what it feels like to be penetrated. Once I started exploring prostate play, I began to crave that feeling of being filled up. When I told my partner about that craving she knew exactly what I meant. “Women can absolutely relate,” she said.